Question: Hi Debbie, I took your advice and am trying to get organized. The thing is , when I started writing down my to do list, I couldn’t stop. It’s so long now that I don’t know where to start. That was my problem before. I get overwhelmed and give up. I know my life is in a mess but I can’t see how I’ll get all this done. Help! JS/MD
Answer: Don’t panic LOL . You have the first step down. Now go through the list and pick out the five most pressing things on it. Put that on your fridge and concentrate on one thing at a time. Mark them off in red as you complete each one. Getting out of the procrastination and feeling overwhelmed takes time. You need to systematically build new habits. Just focus on one thing right now and go to the next only when you can mark that one off.
You will find that seeing the few things getting done will give you a great sense of accomplishment and keep you moving through your list. Hope this helps. MamaC
Question : Hi Miss Debbie, I think I have really screwed up. I am half way through nursing school and have had a blast. I really love his stuff. But now that I am doing my clinicals, with real people. I think I may not be cut out to be a nurse. I cry all the time. My heart breaks to see the elderly in pain. I know it will be worse when I get to the little kids. I have invested so much time and money now. I don’t know what to do. I haven’t broke down in front of them yet, but I go to the bathroom and just ball. I don’t know how people do it. This is so sad. I really want to be a nurse more than anything but afraid I won’t be any good to them. Was it this way for you? Am I just not cut out to do this and if not this, what should I do now?? Thanks for everything BM/SC
Answer: Babydoll, You are exactly what it takes to be a nurse and a good one.! In answer to your question YES I cried. Most do. Those who don’t, usually want to. If not, they should. Just imagine t you are caring for your Grandmother,Sister, Mom or Dad. Would you want someone to care for them who didn’t care enough to cry sometimes?
I’ve been on both sides of that stethoscope. I can assure you that given a choice, I would rather have you dropping tears in my wounds, than some who would drop nothing or feel nothing. Try not to cry while doing a dressing though ! LOL. Things will get better and you will cry less. I hope that you will never let yourself feel less or have less empathy.
Go and have a good cry when you need to. Don’t take the tears home with you. Know that when you leave there , someones life has been made a little easier just because you care. You will see many sad and disgusting things. However, the fulfillment you will have at a “thank you” or knowing that you made a difference, will warm you to the core. You are made of all the right stuff to be a nurse ! Wash your face, put on a smile and get back out there! I only hope that when I, or my family really needs a nurse, that it’s your beautiful teary eyed face that walks in the door.
GO GET YOUR DREAMS LITTLE ONE! You’ve only screwed up if you quit! Mama Capps
QUESTION: Dear Mama Capps, You mentioned in your training that we should not neglect to nurture relationships with people that will never buy from us. I didn’t hear the why to that question. Could you elaborate???? I have been in MLM’s but am new to social networking as you call it. Just started with a new MLM company and am grateful for your social network training and advice. Thanks JD/OH
ANSWER: Be glad to sweetie. The reason you want to abandon everything about socializing that you have learned in the typical MLM or Network Marketing is that it doesn’t work for today’s marketer. The person with whom you develop a good relationship may or may not ever buy from you or enter your business. However, If you have a true relationship with that person and have built trust and value with them, they may recommend you to 10 or 20 others who may be looking for what you have to offer.
The old sponsor, lead to the system and throw em to the wolves marketing has never worked well with the majority. If you want to really make it in the industry today you must change the way you think about prospects. Most are frustrated and turned off by the MLM song and dance way of doing business. People will buy from people they trust. If they trust you ,you don’t have to sell them. If they are not interested in what you are doing, they may send someone else your way but only if you have built a trusting and non sale relationship with them.
An example would be, I am not interested in the opportunity that you want to offer. However, months down the road my daughter-in-law tells me she wants to explore working from home. If I have known you to be someone I trust and a real friend, your number would be the one I would suggest she call.
Another would be that I have a prospect that tells me he is looking for an opportunity but wants to find something say, with nutrition as opposed to high tech phones. If we had a trusting relationship outside of (you sell me I sell you), I would send this person to you and your opportunity. This knowing that you and he would do the same.
The point to my training was to teach you to love what you do enough to share it with enthusiasm. Not sell it with an excitement that could be mistaken for desperation. Keep this in mind ( everyone wants to buy, but no one wants to be sold ) If you are confident in your product and your company people will come to you. If you find that everytime you tell some one about your business, they avoid you afterward, You are selling instead of sharing. Not everyone will want what you are offering. but those people will always know someone who will want it. If you have something of true value, getting customers and recruits is easy. Be yourself, genuinely love and respect people and just let them know what you have. Be careful not to write them off or feel put off when people say no. Develop real relationships with all sorts of people. Have fun and be genuine. I promise you that I and most anyone else will at least try your product just because we like you. Good Luck with your new deal. MamaC
Question: Mama C, Is there anything you recommend for depression? I can’t seem to shake it with all the bad news everywhere and on the news everyday. I don’t want to take the prescriptions because of the side effects. Thanks JC/WA
Answer: My top recommendation would be to turn that TV off and quit watching the news! At least limit it. I talk to many that are doing too much of that and depression and stress is the result! There is a natural product called Valerian Root which is found in many stores . There are all kinds of products out there do your research! Try different ones and find one that is right for you. I personally take a product called T-Blast. It helps me to reduce stress and sleep better. It also helps me with energy which certainly helps with mild depression. I also use the Valerian occasionally.
I’m assuming you are experiencing mild situational depression. For prolonged and more severe depression I recommend that you consult your doctor. One thing that helps along with any natural remedies is meditation. And for pete’s sake turn the channel and watch a comedy for a change. Laughter is the best medicine. For information on specific products that I use and where I get them just send me an e-mail with stress in the subject line. Good Luck and Be Happy Mama Capps
